Emotional triggers are SO tricky. They will often cause you to blame others for something you have not dealt with internally that likely has nothing to do with the person you're blaming.
Here are 3 steps that I take to handle my emotional triggers when they come about.
1. Identify whether it is my trigger or whether someone is legitimately maliciously attacking me.
The best way to differentiate between these 2 ideas, is to observe yourself in the situation and determine whether you feel like you NEED to tell the person they pissed you off because you feel angry or upset deep down to your core or whether they were purposely and maliciously ugly to you in order to hurt you specifically. If you do feel that deep seated emotion and need to speak up and the person's action was NOT intentionally malicious, it's likely the trigger belongs to you and has absolutely nothing to do with the person you're pissed at. Anger is not a necessity in order to handle a situation when someone is maliciously rude to you. Standing up for yourself is easier when you’re not triggered.
2. Draw myself back in and use the best calming methods I've developed and placed in my spiritual tool box to lower my cortisol levels and calm myself.
It is a practice best learned by daily meditation, but the ability to step away from the situation and literally calm yourself will help with eliminating the emotional trigger once you've identified whether it's your trigger or not. Other people's points of view can be overwhelming and upsetting if you're stuck in an emotionally charged point of view that's likely based in a limiting belief you might have developed at a very young age. But once you can stop and observe the situation enough to de-escalate your emotions a bit, you can move on to the final step.
3. Find the best way to "cut the emotional cords" of a situation and in turn eliminate the trigger.
Cord cutting is a very commonly used spiritual practice and there are countless methods of doing this. Some are very complex and require a spiritual healer or practitioner of some sort. And some ways are much more simple! I did initially use a spiritual practitioner to help me, but via my daily meditation, I was able to simplify my own method of emotional cord cutting. Always set intentions for your highest, greatest good when researching new ideas, such as emotional cord cutting. Essentially, cutting emotional cords helps you to eliminate that emotional trigger yet hold in your heart and being the lessons you learned from that particular experience.
The human experience is like no other experience in the Universe as far as I'm concerned. And while current times here on earth are quite strange and sometimes harsh, energy wise, we are in some very fascinating times, that I personally, feel blessed and filled with gratitude to be a part of. Blessed be!
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