Number One
Learn what your triggers are in order to acknowledge your emotions.
Triggers are those actions or words or behaviors we see outside of us that make us feel bad, hurt, uneasy or angry inside. Sometimes the emotions make sense in response to the trigger and other times your reaction to a trigger is completely nonsensical. It is so important to start pinpointing your triggers and here's why...
• Our triggers are like storm sirens. If you've never lived in an area where there are storm sirens, they are very loud sirens that go off when there is a potentially deadly storm or bad weather situation on the horizon. They warn you to find a safe space to seek shelter in until the storm passes. Triggers most definitely do the same thing as the storm sirens, if we learn to recognize them.
• Shit storms are inevitable and they suck. Knowing what your triggers are can help you disapate the storm faster once the sirens go off.
Number Two
Learn to acknowledge your emotions in order to better hold a beneficial state of being.
Your state of being is your response to a situation, as opposed to your reaction. When you respond, you do it from a space of knowing what you want to say or do and how you want to convey it. That doesn't mean you need to be calm and zen in every scenario. Sometimes a beneficial state of being for someone can be anger, as long as it's directed properly. Standing up for yourself can be a controlled scenario. Self- defense techniques or defensive tactic fighting is a great example of standing up for yourself in a controlled manner.
Now you might be asking the question, why should you learn to acknowledge your emotions? I have strong opinions on that and they are as follows:
• If you run from them, they're faster and will beat you to your destination and shit on your party!
• Emotions are not fucking biodegradable. If you bury them, they'll make everything around you toxic and icky.
• And lastly, you deserve to learn what they have to say. So sit down with them, say hi, let them know you know you're safe and they're safe and give them a hug, damnit. Then you can let the pain they've caused you go and allow the emotions to transmute and you'll be left with a beautiful lesson to move forward with! That's pretty bad ass!
Number Three
Begin to take charge of your state of being so that you can learn to regulate your body for wellness and optimal health as long as possible.
You might have heard the phrase "emotional regulation" before because it's being used a lot these days. I do not agree with the idea of emotional regulation. The dictionary.com definition of regulate is as follows: to control or direct by a rule, principle, method, etc.
Emotions are chaotic by nature and in my opinion, chaos breeds creativity and creativity is often a space for growth and expansion. So to control, put in order or apply rules to your emotions puts you in a space of trying to make them do what you think they SHOULD be doing and that, by the ways of human nature is skewed and in all honesty probably why we're all as fucked up as we are. No offense if you think you're not fucked up, just stating that as a whole, humanity is very fucked up and as a result, that means you're fucked up too. But it's all ok and it's all just as it should be, so take a deep breathe and just roll with it. We can all be perfectly imperfect together!
Now that that's all been hashed out with love, I'll tell you my thoughts on why we need to learn to better regulate our bodies...
• Unlike our emotions, that show up at will (based on our random ass triggers), the body actually does need to be in order. It need rules and can be controlled and regulated.
• Emotions are energy and when energy isn't moved (by acknowledgment and clearing), it can become stagnant and certain emotional energy has a tendency to get stuck in certain areas of the body. There is a science called metaphysics that studies the specifics of that idea.
• When stagnant emotional energy is stuck in one area of the body too long, it literally festers. This causes ailments, which is your body's way of trying to get your attention and then eventually the stagnant energy turns to disease aka (for emphasis) dis-ease. I didn't coin that! It's used a LOT by holistic practitioners.
In blunt conclusion, listen to your fucking body because it has a LOT of shit to tell you and you can learn so very much by giving it the love and attention it deserves! It's done a lot for you since birth! It's time to give back to it and start healing your spirit, mind and body! You've got this and I believe in you!
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